“Weigh the pros and cons before making any decision”
When you’re about to hook up, deciding whether to go back to your place or her place can present a big conundrum. First, of course, there’s the debacle over whether actually going home with a date is a good idea. There are lots of things to be concerned with, such as your privacy and confirming that both you and she are ready to actually hook up. Once you’re ready without a doubt, though, here are a few tactics for deciding whether to go back to your place or hers.
The Roommate Debacle
This is an easier question to answer, because no one likes dealing with roommates when they’re trying to have an amorous encounter. If you live with roommates, then definitely see if you can go to her place. The issue with roommates is that, not only do you stand a chance of being interrupted, but not everyone lives with roommates. Therefore, if that’s your living arrangement, but she lives in her own apartment, she may not understand. It’s always best to err on the side of avoiding roommates if possible.
Is She Married or Single?
This is an important question, because there’s no reason you shouldn’t be hooking up with a single woman or a married one. When a woman is married, hooking up at her place might not be the best option. Even if her husband is away on business or not at home, you stand a far better chance of getting your nose broken than keeping your hookups with the married woman a secret. If a married woman invites you into her house in public, any neighbors or witnesses have seen you, and might tell her husband. If a woman is single, you still have to judge whether she has any ulterior motives and listen to what she says carefully. With a single woman, going back to her place is a fine option, but make sure you’re clear that she wants it as much as you do. Hooking up with a single lady is a great way to have fun, but make sure she’s actually interested in NSA sex only.
What Happens When It’s Your Place
“Inviting her at your place could be risky”
If you decide you need to go to your place after a long night of flirting and bantering, you should be aware of the repercussions. When a woman ventures back to your place, she’s going to see your entire life. If you have any pictures or photographs on the walls, she’ll be able to see into your life that way. She’ll know your address and probably your e-mail address, too. While all of this might not worry you, all you have to do is make sure that she’s trustworthy. Whether that means going on more than one date to test her and see what she’s all about, or just avoiding your home altogether, you need to know her intentions. It’s fine to ask out loud and straightforwardly what she wants, and then describe what you want. As long as she doesn’t end up being a psychopath, you could have an incredibly hot hookup in front of you. Just always remember what’s revealed at any given time.